“Self-deception is like this. It blinds us to the true causes of problems, and once we’re blind, all the “solutions” we can think of will actually make matters worse. Whether at work or at home, self-deception obscures the truth about ourselves, corrupts our view of others and our circumstances, and inhibits our ability to make wise and helpful decisions.”
The book explores how self-deception underlies all leadership problems in today's organizations, and how breaking free of it creates improved teamwork, commitment, trust, communication, motivation, and leadership.
1. Self-centered self-deception is when we are "in the box"; people around us can sense this regardless of how much kindness we try to show.
2. We self-deceive ourselves when we see others' needs and interests as less important than ours. We then also inflate our own strengths and magnify other people's weaknesses.
3. It is hard to get out of this box, as it becomes as a self-fulfilling cycle. Staying out of the box is only possible if we use empathy towards others and try to see the positive in them.
READ IF: You lead others and want to become aware of the self-deception pitfalls that may prevent you from becoming an exceptional leader.